Hosting a dinner party involves more than just serving delicious food. Proper table service etiquette can elevate the dining experience, making guests feel welcome and appreciated. In this blog post, we will explore four essential tips that you might not know but will ensure a polished and enjoyable mealtime for both you and your guests.
When Dinner is ready to be served
To create an inviting atmosphere, have the table prepared before guests arrive. Light the candles and ensure water glasses are filled. If possible, have the first course plated before guests sit down, excluding hot dishes that may require immediate serving. For a small group, politely announce, “Dinner is ready; shall we go in?” For larger groups, ask a few friends to help guide guests to the dining room. Lead the way to dinner graciously. Instead of saying “Bon Appétit,” opt for the more polite phrase, “Please Enjoy,” which focuses on the pleasure of the meal rather than the act of eating.
Seating Arrangements
Thoughtful seating arrangements can facilitate engaging conversations and a harmonious atmosphere. Seat the guest of honor to the right of the host, with their spouse or the next in rank seated on the host’s left. Place single guests next to each other and split couples to encourage a flow of conversation. If you have a guest who possesses knowledge about the evening’s topic or wine, seat them in the middle of the table for better audibility. Consider your guests’ interests and backgrounds to position them next to individuals who can engage them in interesting conversations or offer assistance. When hosting elderly guests, seat them next to someone polite, chatty, and helpful should they require any assistance.
Order of Service
Maintaining a proper order of service ensures a smooth flow during the meal. Food should be presented on the left side of each diner, starting with the guest of honor. In the United States, service and passing of dishes typically move counterclockwise around the table, ending with the host. When passing dishes, it is considered polite for each guest to hold the dish for the guest on their right before continuing the pass-around. This ensures everyone has an opportunity to receive each dish.
Clearing the Table
Clearing the table efficiently and seamlessly is an essential part of table service etiquette. Remove dishes from the right side of each diner, taking two at a time, one in each hand. Avoid stacking dishes, as this can create an untidy appearance. Begin by removing all salad and entrée plates, replacing them with clean dessert plates. Remember to remove unused silverware, salt, and pepper, replacing them with dessert cutlery and utensils for coffee or tea. If guests offer to help clear the table, politely decline their assistance, expressing that it is easier for you to handle it yourself. Alternatively, designate a specific serving and cleaning buddy in advance to assist you throughout the evening.
Mastering table service etiquette enhances the overall dining experience for both hosts and guests. By following these four tips, you can ensure a polished and enjoyable atmosphere during your dinner parties. Prepare the table, manage seating arrangements strategically, maintain the order of service, and clear the table with grace and efficiency. These practices will contribute to a refined and memorable dining experience that will leave your guests feeling appreciated and eagerly anticipating your next gathering.
